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this whole blogging thing…

November 4, 2010

I don’t know what to do with this whole blogging thing.

On one hand, I love it. I love the writing, the friends, the relationships and the community. It’s fun and interactive and I like putting my thoughts out into the universe for others to see. I truly missed this little habit while on hiatus this summer.

On the other hand, something is different… A bit off, if you will. The internet friends I’ve made over the last few years have become real life best friends (and even a boyfriend.) I no longer read their blogs as a voyeur, peering into an unknown life to satiate the fact that I’m REALLY NOSEY. Instead I read what they write to keep up with graduations and cross-country (or continent) moves, engagements and weddings and babies and all of that. We send cards and Trader Joe’s care packages and text message and visit each other. Those once-strange internet friends have become best friends.

And honestly, I couldn’t tell you the last time I added a new blog to my Google Reader.

That sounds bad, right? I mean, I’m a huge fan and proponent of 20-Something Bloggers, and I love that the community is growing and thriving. But where I once felt like part of the Inner Circle, I now feel like a stranger. I try to read the blogs of active users and featured bloggers, but I just cannot muster up the energy to invest in creating the same quality of relationships I have now.

Things are different now, but different isn’t bad. When I started blogging 2.5 years ago, I was a sophomore in college on the mend from a break up and feeling incredibly lonely and unsure of myself. Now I’m 23 and confident and satisfied and in love and life has happened.

I’m glad the environment around me has changed and evolved, even if that means letting go of the way things used to be. I’m grateful for the past and I’m super duper beyond excited for the future. And that future will definitely include blogging, one way or another.


P.S. Anyone want to let me know if this shows up in your reader? I changed the URL and thought that I had the feed all fixed but who knows. THE INTERNET IS HARD Y’ALL. Or you can just subscribe to whatever feed this is right here. Or not. Whatever.

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Erini November 4, 2010 at 9:42 am

I feel the same way about 20sb. I hold a HUGE spot for it in my heart, but just like returning to campus after graduation… it’s not the same. There’s all these new kids — and while that’s awesome and I’m completely excited that they’re there… *my* 20sb has changed.

Mostly now, I’m working on relationships with my readers — people who interact with me on my blog or twitter, those are the ones I’m going to make an effort to get in touch with… Finding people on 20sb just isn’t in the picture much. I love that a lot of my 20sb friends have become offline friends too! I love the opportunities my blog has given me — hell, it got me a job. A real one where I’m using my skills.

Anyway. Totally get what you’re saying.

PS- how long has it been since we’ve seen each other?! Good thing my boss encourages travel… I think I’ve got a handful of “I need to see these bloggers NOW” trips in the works.

(Also: just added the feed, you’re showing up in my gReader.)
Erini´s last blog post ..I must be crazy


prettylittlereckless November 4, 2010 at 11:21 am

I’m apart of 20sb, but I never got into it? It was kinda never my thing. I think we all go through changes with blogging. My first blog was fun and started getting an “ok” following (enough for me), but then I changed blogs and blogging kinda changed with it. Obviously, I still blog, but it’s not like it was before. So I can relate here- blogging will always be here in some form, it just might not be the same as before. :)


Suburban Sweetheart November 4, 2010 at 3:20 pm

I never got into 20sb, even though I have a profile there. And somehow, I never really made the transition from blog friends to real-life friends, either, except with maybe one or two people who I now text sometimes & visit if we’re in the same place. I understand, though, the feeling of things changing – they always are, morphing, & it’s not “off” per se, so much as the next phase. Things change. Embrace it. Blog if you want, don’t if you don’t want! That simple. <3 And most importantly? Do NOT feel guilty, either way.
Suburban Sweetheart´s last blog post ..Little Monsters of the Come-Work-For-Us Variety


doniree November 5, 2010 at 1:33 am

Regardless of relationships and communities that change and evolve, I’m glad that I’ve found you through this and that Trader Joe’s care packages and late-night Skype chats are a part of my life :)
doniree´s last blog post ..November with Intention


Mary November 5, 2010 at 3:53 pm

Showed up in my reader!

I love this post – I feel exactly the same way! It’s a matter of adjusting to changing circumstances I guess.
Mary´s last blog post ..Did you know Lisbeth is my middle name


Tracita Linda November 9, 2010 at 4:56 pm

Hi, I’m a new reader. I recently started asking myself why am I subscribed to 50+ blogs (I like returning favors) when I can’t really sort through the guck anymore to find my faves…hmm.. And I haven’t really formulated any real substantial friendships offline through the blogger world but I do love meeting people who live in other countries and invite me to come visit. They don’t realize I’m the type of person who will really catch a flight…
Great post, time to go back to the DASH and clear the junk!
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Rebekah November 17, 2010 at 3:02 pm


You’ll never be a stranger to me :)


Jon January 12, 2011 at 6:14 am

The RSS feed works! And I think you should keep blogging!


David January 25, 2011 at 7:48 pm

3 words for you…

Blogging is hard!

I have a love/hate relationship with it, just like life.

And just like life, you’ll find yourself feeling like this often.
David´s last blog post ..Love Liberates


Matt March 4, 2011 at 3:25 pm

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