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putting it out into the universe

March 26, 2010

I’m generally not one of those people who spends a lot of time on self-reflection or goal planning or life evaluation. It’s just not my thing, and it never has been. For some reason these things don’t come easy to me, they’re not my default thinking mode.

Luckily for me, I have friends who do this so well and make it a priority and are willing to teach me how.

While I was in Colorado this week, Doniree and Ashley and I spent some time in an awesome coffee shop (that also serves wine. WINE AND COFFEE. IN ONE PLACE. I know — amazing.) While we were there, Doni pulls out one of her many a notebook and tells Ashley and I that we’re going to play a game: We’re each going to come up with five desires for ourselves in the next year and write them down.

WRITE THEM DOWN.

It’s such a simple concept, writing. In a time in my life where so much of what I do is on a keyboard, I tend to forget about writing.

And after hearing Chelsea explain how everything that happens in our lives is a result of what we put out into the Universe, that we create our realities with our thoughts and actions, this whole writing thing seemed so crucial.

So Doni and Ashley and I wrote down our desires for the next year, and I’m putting them out into the Universe –

  1. Say “I love you” and mean it
  2. Get paid to write something
  3. Be more physically healthy
  4. Live on a budget (mindful of money)
  5. Land a job that lets me interact with people

I have no idea what is in store for me in the next twelve months as I graduate college and start new relationships and move to a new city (heck, I just wrote an entire piece about accepting change), but I am determined to create my own reality and give myself the life I want. These five desires seem like the perfect place to start.

What are your desires/dreams/aspirations for yourself in the next year?

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Taylor March 26, 2010 at 9:54 am

I like this, a lot. I’m definitely a “goal person”, and I’m always analyzing and reanalyzing my life. I’m just one of those people.

My 5 goals…

1) Stop trying to please everybody around me and start living for ME.
2) Complete the 5k run without dying.
3) Start a healhy relationship, or at least leave the sex-based one I’m stuck in.
4) Get rid of the negative people in my life. I want to surround myself with people that actually make me happy.
5) Stop overanalyzing my life and just let it be
.-= Taylor´s last blog ..Mr. Perfect =-.

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Jenn March 26, 2010 at 1:59 pm

Oh hello, #4! I was literally just discussing this — how I used to pride myself on my ability to keep in touch with people from my past and maintain distanced relationships. But now I’ve realized those people don’t hold the same value for me anymore and it’s just wasted energy on my part. So cheers to us in holding on tight to the good eggs and letting go of the bad ones!

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Sid April 1, 2010 at 5:04 am

Hell yeah to number 2. I’m just started training.
.-= Sid´s last blog ..Justice is blind =-.

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Doniree March 26, 2010 at 11:00 am

For the record, I said “desires” not “goals” because it’s not so much about “how” you get there; Don’t get caught up in the list-making to make those things happen, just chew on the desires themselves :) You’re still going to end up planning to some degree, but don’t make it about the steps along the way… Eyes on the prize!

My five desires right now?
- Costa Rica
- Extended time in Europe
- start my book
- HEALTH (I woke up NOT healthy this morning :()
- balance
.-= Doniree´s last blog ..Dancer =-.

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Matt Stratton March 26, 2010 at 5:15 pm

Costa Rica is amazing. We went there on our honeymoon in 2007 and it was seriously one of the most awesome things that ever awesomed.
.-= Matt Stratton´s last blog ..VIDEO – Lightroom Tutorial 1: Importing Photos =-.

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Doniree March 26, 2010 at 11:06 am

Ok, when I re-read that last comment it seemed all weird and snarkish, and that’s not what I meant! :) I’m glad you picked up a notebook and that my silly way of seeing things resonates with you too, and I MISS YOU ALREADY.
.-= Doniree´s last blog ..Dancer =-.

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Jenn March 26, 2010 at 1:57 pm

Hahaha not snarkish at all my dear — I wrote down goals while thinking “for some reason that doesn’t sound right…” so THANK YOU for filling in the correct word (I went back and changed it haha)

I miss you already too and I looooove your desires :)

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Matt Stratton March 26, 2010 at 5:09 pm

This is a really good exercise, and I’m finding it to be somewhat enlightening since my first pass at it tends to come up with a lot of “money” type desires…which is a little bit of an ugly thing to look at.

But the good thing is…when you start looking at those types of goals (i.e. “make more money”, etc) and then you look at WHY that’s your goal…well, that’s where the actual desire becomes apparent. Here are mine:

1) Become a linchpin (as Seth Godin calls it) in my company
2) Maintain “offline” friendships better (this is a big one; the combination of friends moving away along with a lack of “me” time makes it much more difficult to keep up with the offline relationships)
3) Remediate the drama/issues going on with my mom’s family
4) Make my wife smile daily
5) BE THE BEST DAMN DAD EVER

The last one is the most important, but so many other goals feed into that, in a way, you know?
.-= Matt Stratton´s last blog ..VIDEO – Lightroom Tutorial 1: Importing Photos =-.

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Jenn March 30, 2010 at 12:40 am

I love #4 and 5 :)

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Carmie of the Single Nester March 26, 2010 at 5:55 pm

I just love your top 5! Getting paid to write and be more physical would be included in mine as well.

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Jenn March 30, 2010 at 12:40 am

Yay! I mean, how badass would it be to get paid to write?! Woo!

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O.G. March 26, 2010 at 7:13 pm

I am definitely a goal person. I have more general long term goals and then more specific 1 year goals. Remember this acronym when setting goals: S.M.A.R.T. Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-sensitive. I think you have good goals up there, I also think they could be enhanced by more specific sub-goals. Also, I’d be weary of the I love you goal – that’s one thing you shouldn’t rush :)

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Jenn March 30, 2010 at 12:42 am

Yeah I learned that SMART thing a while back and never really absorbed it… I think I need to be more flexible at the moment and desire more. And the “I love you one” is on there for a very specific reason with a very specific individual in mind ;)

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thatShortChick March 26, 2010 at 10:20 pm

I’m definitely a goal person but, sometimes, I feel creating goals and writing them down sets me up for failure. because if I don’t accomplish them, then it’s THE END OF THE WORLD.

my only goal at the moment? to get an entry level PR job here in Charlotte. which, apparently, is next to impossible. oh, another goal would be for me to not lose my mind because of said job search.
.-= thatShortChick´s last blog ..me and my macbook = L.O.V.E. =-.

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Jenn March 30, 2010 at 12:43 am

Put it out into the Universe! I’ll send good vibes your way :) Cheers to our job hunting!

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Amy March 27, 2010 at 9:15 pm

I love goals. I have way too many. It’s all I’ve been thinking about.

This year I would like to see the following happen:
1) Start and keep a second job that will help me with my financial crisis
2) Complete the Capital City Half Marathon in May and then the Columbus Marathon in October
3) Get back in school to study graphic design
4) Spend more time with friends and family
5) Read A LOT

There, universe! Now hold me to it!

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Jenn March 30, 2010 at 12:43 am

Good luck with them! My dad is training for the Boston marathon and it sounds so intense! I hope it goes well — keep us posted!

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SassyGirl March 28, 2010 at 9:14 am

Writing things down is definitely in line with my philosophy. I think it holds me more accountable, and helps me remember what I wanted. That’s why I started a massive “Life List” on my blog, to keep track.

Right now, my 5 desires are:
- Graduate with flying colours
- Start/maintain a healthy lifestyle
- Solidify my friendships
- Show my parents how much I appreciate them
- Enjoy every last second of this summer
.-= SassyGirl´s last blog ..The Windy City =-.

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Jenn March 30, 2010 at 12:44 am

I definitely need to get a life list going. It’s about time.

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steph anne March 28, 2010 at 4:09 pm

Sounds like a reasonable list of desires! I’m only focusing on one thing at a time which is losing weight because I know I’ll discover more desires as I go on my journey to losing weight.
.-= steph anne´s last blog ..Winner of the Chalkboard Wall Decal! =-.

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Jenn March 30, 2010 at 12:44 am

It’s awesome that you’re so focused on that — I’m in awe of your dedication — keep it up!

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Walter March 28, 2010 at 8:50 pm

Within us all is the power to make things possible. We just have to put our bodies to work and defy the boundaries set forth by the status quo.

Everything is created twice, first in the mind, then in reality. Sadly, most are stuck with the first creation. :-)

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Jenn March 30, 2010 at 12:46 am

Ooooh I like that — everything is created twice. I’ll have to keep that in mind (and remember to put in into reality!)

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Ask Alice March 29, 2010 at 1:00 am

Great idea – especially that it’s not a “5 year plan” or anything unattainable.

I would say my desires for the next year are:

1. Lose a few pounds and be more physically active. So in short, enroll in a boot-camp
2. Start teaching in Costa Rica in the fall
3. Get along better with my mother
4. Save a set amount of money every month for aforementioned trip/new life
5. Get rid of at least 1/4 of my clothes
.-= Ask Alice´s last blog ..A Few More Reasons =-.

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Jenn March 30, 2010 at 12:47 am

Costa Rica! That sounds wonderful. And I totally need to get rid of some of my clothes too!

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Hannh March 29, 2010 at 9:16 am

I try to do a similar exercise at the start of every new year. And sometimes I fail miserably at reaching/retaining any of my five “desires.” But, other times, I catch them all. I think the more important thing is having them and striving for them in the first place.
.-= Hannh´s last blog ..I have fallen behind… =-.

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Jenn March 30, 2010 at 12:50 am

I agree! It’s important to just acknowledge your desires and make them known. And they can change all the time too but as long as you know what they are then you have a direction :)

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andhari March 29, 2010 at 9:52 am

Such a great idea. I’m about to graduate too. For now my wish is to get accepted in my dream lawfirm here in the city, having busy yet fullfilling life. Meet new people. Do better on my music.:)

good luck for your goals!
.-= andhari´s last blog ..What Goes Around Comes Around =-.

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Jenn March 30, 2010 at 12:52 am

Ooooh law firm! Good luck my dear!

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Citygal March 29, 2010 at 10:10 am

I’m definitely wanting to have something published…getting paid for it would be nice too! Also, I’d like to get back to being happily single. I was like that around this time last year and I found love, so maybe the key to finding someone is to first be satisfied with your life as it currently is!
.-= Citygal´s last blog ..Loneliness and boredom…you suck =-.

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Jenn March 30, 2010 at 12:53 am

Being happily single is definitely a great way to start — I was that way for two years and then all of a sudden it hit me like… a month ago? I’ll send you some good vibes :)

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Aritza, Goddess of .. March 29, 2010 at 10:11 pm

That’s a really good idea and your goals sound great. Attainable but not easy. Enough of a challenge to make you work for it .. but not totally irrealistic. Falling in love is probably the hardest one to achieve .. or it might be super easy.. it depends on who you meet in the next year. It’s a hard one to control :)

In my case, I set up a list with personal goals for the next 5 years : .
I also wrote a post regarding where I see myself in 10 years :

.-= Aritza, Goddess of ..´s last blog ..
Goddess of .. Help, I’m running out of options ! =-.

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Jenn March 30, 2010 at 12:54 am

Hehe I snuck that “I love you” one in there with a specific individual in mind… I think I’m on the right track!

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Sid April 1, 2010 at 5:22 am

1) Run 5km comfortably.
2) Travel.
3) Get paid to write about my travel adventures. Or at least win that travel writing competition I just entered.
4) Fall for a boy. Fall so hard that I’d actually consider learning how to cook for him.

Shit I only have 4 things. Erm …

Become a better photographer?
.-= Sid´s last blog ..Justice is blind =-.

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STEPH. March 27, 2011 at 9:45 pm

OK UNIVERSE HERE IT GOES!!!! 8-)

1. LAND A JOB IN THE HEALTHCARE FIELD..
2. WELCOME LOVE IN MY LIFE.. NOT CONTINUE TO GO BACK TO SAME CYCLE..
3. GET NEGATIVE ENERGY/PEOPLE OUT OF MY LIFE..POSITIVE IN..
4. APPRECIATE THE PEOPLE THAT I LOVE MORE..
5. WORK HARDER TO GET WHAT I WANT.. STOP PROCASTINATING..GET ON IT AT ONCE..
6. BE HAPPY!!!!!

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